A Relationship is Like a Ballroom Dance
Date added to ADN: Thu,
May 12, 2011
Originally Published: Thu, July 29, 2010
by Monica Sarkar
(About the Author)
A relationship is like a ballroom dance. Life is the dance floor and the music is the energy of the union. Partners attract another, join together and harmonise to the same piece of music. They are sensitive to one another's movements and become in tune with each other's techniques to create a routine and pace that suits them both.
One of the most important aspects of a dance is that neither partner must hold too tightly, try to force the other partner too close to them or demand them to move in a particular way. Although they are dancing together, they are still sole, individual performers who have found a connection with one another. The dance is the expression of this connection. And the beauty in the expression is the freedom that comes with it.
At some point, one partner may slip and fall. This may be caused by a lapse in their focus, the other partner's negligence or the two individuals being unable to co-ordinate anymore. The standing partner responds by lovingly offering a helping hand to their other half, who peacefully accepts the gesture, so that they may try to continue dancing. On some occasions, the fall may be too hard to ever recover and dance again with that person, but any resolution needs to be sought after calmly and collectively.
Sometimes, one person may develop a dancing style of their own and find that their current partner no longer synchronises with them. Or they find that the music playing no longer fulfils their passion or is in tune with their inner self. This is not the fault of either partner. Sometimes a relationship can exist to enable someone to reach a state of self-realization as they learn more about themselves. The relationship fitted in with the person's character before they were enlightened but once the individual achieves this state, the relationship no longer bears the relevance it once did. Although hurtful to the partner that doesn't wish to bow out, the initial togetherness has fulfilled its purpose and causes both dancers to embark on a different footpath.
At other times, both partners can find that a distance grows between them and they gradually drift apart. Yet again, the dance lasted as long as it was needed but it can never be bounded, possessed or made to last.
One of the greatest dancers of all time, Michael Jackson, once said that the worst thing a dancer can do is think. Therefore, the dancing partners shouldn't become lost in thought about the story that unfolds with the dance.
Enjoy the performance, flow with the movements and see where the rhythm takes you both.
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